If confidence ever became a purchasable item, there’s no doubt that it would fly off the shelves. To put it simply, it’s that extra courage juice we’re all in possession of that helps us to take on daunting tasks with ease and self-assurance. But what about those times when you need it most and confidence rarely shows up? Well, those inopportune moments are when you have to rev it up like an engine. Here are five thoughts to push forward when it feels like your confidence is M.I.A.
No Expert Is Really An Expert
Part of the reason it seems as if our confidence goes into hiding is that we’re placing so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. We think that the audience we’re communicating with expects us to have all the answers to the topic at hand. We can combat that flawed perception with an acknowledgment that no one really knows what they’re doing. Yes, there are people who’ve studied really hard at their craft and sit atop the highest perch in their respective fields, but we’re all just winging it and that’s the truth. Once you get past the fear of being judged and critiqued, you can truly exude your highest potential.
Just Do It Like Nike
Will Smith just turned 50 and to celebrate the milestone he decided to bungee jump over the Grand Canyon. Not only did he set himself up for one of the most terrifying challenges a person not in possession of wings could take on, but he did it live on YouTube and asked the world to watch. Hours leading up to the big jump, I wanted him to back out of it. Sorry, that classic episode of “The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air” where Hilary’s boyfriend Trevor died in a bungee jumping proposal accident came to mind. But nonetheless, he went through with it and he didn’t hesitate. Sometimes you just have to jump and hope for the best.
Know When To Slow Down
Imagine your confidence as a person and you two planned a date together. Said date was slated to begin at 7 p.m., but confidence is stuck in traffic. All the while we’re cursing ourselves and engaging in negative self-talk. It’s funny, we give everyone and everything in our lives a grace period except confidence. Instead, we choose to blame ourselves for being incompetent. It’s time we stop rushing through life and being disappointed with the results.
There’s Beauty In Being A Beginner
Everyone has to start somewhere, and it’s unfair to force yourself to start at the finish line. One of the curses of social media aside from FOMO is the comparison game. We’re measuring the comments of praise of someone who’s been at it way longer than we have. The best part about being a novice is that you get to learn and make mistakes, which ultimately grants you experiences to build up your confidence reserve. Be a proud newbie and own it!
You Deserve To Be Where You Are
Sometimes when confidence is late, imposter syndrome shows up. The definition of this psychological ailment is a belief that you aren’t good enough or deserving of a certain appointment even though you’ve worked so hard to get it. Imposter syndrome will have a Broadway star feeling like they need 25 more rehearsals on opening night. Know that you were called to pursue a particular path because it’s your destiny and you already have the tools to crush it.
Do you have a system to battle feeling less than confident? Tell us in the comments!
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