Hey friends, I know you haven’t heard from me and that’s because … well …Little Ms. Nuri is in high demand mode. We’re approaching month three, and finding time to eat, shower and wear a shirt without spit up on it seems to be an Olympic challenge. She has grown, rolled over 180*, and is now teething.
It’s crazy how fast time is going, but when will that snap back occur…I’ll wait. So it’s not the “Love and Hip Hop” body type of snap back that I am awaiting (although that would be nice), rather it’s the when will I master the mom-life balance that I’m seeking.
I like to think that I’ve crossed many big hurdles—such as getting her to sleep more than 2 hours, having her sleep in her own bed, and stimulating her enough that she isn’t just getting lazy and spoiled. But, I see Mompreneurs doing their thing: working from home, raising their children, traveling, and just being straight up fabulous..and I want to know HOW?! That is my million dollar question.
We have the same amount of hours in a day. I want to sleep, bond with my baby, and grow my business while I’m home. That is my #SuperMomGoals. Should I kiss that dream goodbye? Anything is possible, right? There are times that in order to stay sane I’ve had to rely on the support from family while my boyfriend is at work.
When I finally have time to myself, all my elaborate plans end up in…well…sleeping for the entire duration. I hate to seem like I don’t have it all under control, in fact, it’s extremely difficult to ask for help, but I’ve come to the conclusion that “it takes a village” is not just a figure of speech!
I had to have a talk with myself and remember that it’s not just about me, everyone needs help for newborns are a handful sometimes two! This is all new to me, regardless of how many babies I helped raise. The difference is…I don’t get a break from this one, she’s here to stay lol!
Do people get the hang of this Mommy thing and work-life balance because they simply don’t have a choice or is it because they’re just good at it? How do people with more than one child do it? Even the thought makes me overwhelmed. Out of all the advice and reading I’ve been doing it seems like the only answer I’ll find is that no baby or situation is the same, so I have to celebrate myself for how far I’ve gotten.
Pace myself. I might not have time right now and things may be difficult, but it gets better as the baby grows. I have to remember to be present and patient with myself and trust the process. Hey, other new moms out there…we got this!