When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade or cut a slice to put into a glass of half full — or empty — water? Throughout our lives, we cannot escape making decisions. These decisions are not always moments during our adulting period (ages 25 to 40), we have been making decisions from the moment of birth. However, as we get older, decisions can become detrimental if you don’t take a moment to weigh out your options before considering to say “Yes.”
Depending on your career path, you may have a moment where you feel like you are stuck in a mundane rut and want a change. Maybe you don’t have a career, but your job is just a 9-to-5 and you’re looking for more out of life besides collecting a check. So you spruce up your resume, hit all the job hunting websites and start applying to positions you may or may not be qualified for.
- Does this position advance your career?
- Will extra energy become a requirement?
- What’s the commute like?
- Does the thought of more or less responsibilities interest you?
- If your current job gives you a counter offer to increase your salary, is it worth staying?
- Why did you start looking for a new job in the first place?
Moving: Renting or Owning
- Do you have a 401k plan to dip into?
- Do you qualify for a first-time homeowner loan?
- If something breaks, do you have finances to repair something on your own? Remember there’s no landlord to call, YOU are the landlord.
- Would you live with a roommate (s)?
- If renting, have you saved enough for first month, last months, security deposit, utilities, groceries and some furniture?
- If your parents own their home, would you rather stay there and help them pay down on the mortgage?
Just because you are dating someone for more than one year does not mean he or she is the one. Just because you are dating someone for more than five years means he or she is the one.
- Do you consider each other in your life plans?
- What are their spending habits?
- Do either of you want children? If you or your partner already has children, what’s the plan with bringing you into their world?
- Willing to relocate?
- How does he or she treat their family and why?
- Is he or she a “yes” person or someone who gives you a realistic perspective?
After all that you may feel like giving up.